#14 Why do we have unjustified shame?
Let's give it a hard look while giving ourselves some softness
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Unjustified shame: it’s shame that’s undeserved. Here’s a little refresher about it.
So…where does it come from? I’m diving into reading research about invalidation, a source of unjustified shame, to learn more about how we acquire this extra unwanted shame-baggage.
Well…that turns out to be kind of a problem…because…1
And so sometimes this happens…
I’m excited to dive into what we know from research about invalidation and unjustified shame. See you next week, when I share a process post about making this work!
If you’re new here you might wonder why I’m curious about shame, why this newsletter is called Soft Things, and who the heck I am, anyway.
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What’s your go-to strategy to tell-off that unjustified shame?
Tell me in the comments.
References:
Lewis, H. 1988. The role of shame in symptom formation. In “Emotions and Psychopathology,” edited by Mclynes et al. (pp. 95-106). Boston, MA:
Springer US.
Scheff, T. J. 2003. Shame in self and society. Symbolic Interaction, 26(2), 239-262. https;//doi.org/10.1525/si.2003.26.2.239
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